Here's something to think about…. Have you ever really considered what your motivations are behind your actions?
Sometimes, I feel like life gets a little crazy busy and we end up doing things on autopilot. A+B=C. It’s normal. We all do it. We get so wrapped up in producing or in striving for our goals, in accomplishing the final result that we forget why we are doing what we’re doing in the first place. After a while, the daily activities we used to love or that brought us great purpose and joy become a grind that is not so enjoyable anymore. When that happens, it’s important to stop and reassess.
Obviously, it would be better to catch ourselves before we get to this point, and even though I think that this is something that we can be purposeful to accomplish, I recognize that it can be hard to catch ahead of time. I think that more often than not we end up in a place where we are frustrated and maybe even feeling a little disillusioned because we get so caught up in the stresses that life brings that we simply forget.
I think that one way we can keep on track is we should always remember the why behind what we do
I think that one way we can keep on track, while we’re doing all the “things” to build whatever we’re striving for our futures, is we should always remember the why behind what we do. Are you doing the “right thing” (whatever that is for you in accomplishing your goals) to get a result? Or are you doing the “right thing” because it’s the right thing to do? Doing what is right, regardless of if it will produce your desired goal, because it is the right thing to do will make what you’re doing a lot more meaningful than achieving that goal.
It is taking the need of the other person ahead of your own need. It is helping someone regardless of whether or not it will be reciprocated. Being kind and thoughtful, always. Having only the motivation to give rather than to receive is hard to do. It feels like it goes against our very own needs. It seems like it goes against achieving our goals, or quotas or expectations from our higher ups… but in all honesty, I think that by being motivated to do what’s right because it’s the right thing to do, rather than because you will get your desired result in the end, is exactly what needs to be done to develop trust and understanding between yourself and the person you’re helping. Doing what’s right because it’s the right thing to do is what will bring you to where you need to be.
It is taking the need of the other person ahead of your own need. It is helping someone regardless of whether or not it will be reciprocated. Being kind and thoughtful, always.
This world is filled with people telling us what we need to do, where we need to go, who we need to be and when we need to get there. What they aren’t doing is caring for the
Individual and realizing their specific need to providing what is best for the individual. Obviously, an advertisement can not be specific to each person, but we can. We can do what’s right for that one person, because it’s the right thing to do.
We can help them receive the help they specifically need and care for what they specifically need. I think that is what is missing in a lot of the “people businesses” that are out there. We’ve lost the individual care that is necessary to help people…
We don’t go into the people business (whether that be in sales, teaching, ministry, yoga or whichever line of work you’re in that has people in it that excites you 😉) to have them bend at our whims. We go into these areas because we care about people and we want to help them and provide something for them that they want or need. Being in the people business is the business of caring for others. It all makes sense when our motivations are in the right space. It gets confusing when it’s not.
Doing what’s right because it’s the right thing to do is what will bring you to where you need to be.
Are you in the people business? You probably are and may not know it. Even if you’re a stay at home mom you’re in the people business. If you’re feeling frustrated or disappointed with where you’re at, take this time to assess and make sure your motivations are in the right place. If they’re not, then now is a good time to shift and find out ways that you can do the next right thing.