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Entrepreneurs  Journal


Welcome to my personal journal of the experiences and lessons I've learned from 20 years of entrepreneurship.  Here we'll discuss:

>What worked and what didn't<

>Facts vs Feelings<

>Working through the highs and lows<

>How to become better every step of the way<

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I’ve lost 16 pounds over the summer! It’s taken work, exercise, a change in eating habits, a choice to be more active and daily commitment. Now that I’ve lost this weight should I stop, and go back to what I was doing before? Absolutely not!

Commitment to my goals whether they are for weight loss, being fit, achievements in my business, my relationships, whatever they are require commitment! Once that commitment fades, results will be less common, may even stop completely and possibly causing me to revert back to where I was before I started this journey.

We live in a world where essentially everything can be handed to us with minimal effort on our part. We get food from the grocery store - no hunting or farming needed (thank God! I actually think I’d starve to death - I’m a city girl through and through) Cooking can even be quick with microwaves and Insta pots. We work for other people who have done all the heavy lifting in creating sustainable businesses, who pay us for showing up every day and doing whatever is expected in our job description.

I talk to a lot of people, and I find that we often have the most difficulty committing to things that are hard. Hard, meaning that all the effort is placed on us and no one else. Hard because we usually have to start from the beginning, at ground zero. We all know that when we are the ones who have to put in all the effort it can be scary and exhausting at times. It may require some sacrificing to remain committed. It may require a change of mindset to keep going. Failure is also a big deal because it’s inevitable. But is that a bad thing?

The more mistakes I make the faster I learn how to do it correctly the next time. I believe the hardest things of all is commitment. Being committed to the promises we make to ourselves and the accomplishments we want to achieve requires a process that is fully and 100% dependent on us. No one else. We can not blame our lack of commitment on anyone else, or even the situations we find ourselves in. There is always a way to keep going. Maybe we have to be creative, or ask for help, or start doing things that are out of our comfort zones, and don’t really like doing, but I think there is always a way to remain committed and consistent.

I know, you’re probably thinking no ones perfect and you’d be absolutely correct. I’m not even saying, “hey look at me! I’ve got it all together all of the time, every single day”. That is truly not the case. But, what I do know is that when I am committed and I do remain consistent and I keep my goals at the forefront of my mind , and I don’t let my negative thoughts or fears or whatever allow me to make excuses for myself, I see results. I see my goals taking place and I get stronger and a more acute awareness about what my daily commitment is producing.

It’s not about perfection. It never is. But it is about commitment. To yourself, to your goals, to your dreams, to your future self.

Why is the word “no” the hardest word for people to hear? Everyone has the right to disagree, or not be ready for something, or not have enough information to feel ready to make a decision on something. We all deserve the right to say no when we feel we need to. So why is it such a hard word to accept when you’re on the receiving end?

I think it’s because the word “no” can be taken personally and thereby making us feel halted, unaccepted, disliked or even unlovable. It places doubt in our minds. Somehow, when we are on the receiving end of the word no, it causes us to doubt the very thing we’re asking them to agree with in the first place. I mean, shouldn’t everyone see it our way?

So, why do we place so much value on such a tiny word?

There have been plenty of circumstances that with enough information, trust being created, follow up and just good old time has passing, that a no can turn into a yes. No is never a final statement, especially when dealing with choices made by ourselves and others. No is just a word that allows for a pause, or an opportunity to find out what hinders or to educate. The word no is not a word to be afraid of. It’s an incredible opportunity to learn and grow for both parties involved. It’s an opportunity to find out what is lacking or blocking the request.

Have you ever changed your mind? I know I have. I have been adamantly against something but then after some more information, time and further consideration my tune has changed, even by just a little.

Take this time to think about all the people who have said no to you in the past. Instead of thinking about the hurt that you may have felt when you received that “no”, think about the person delivering it. Be compassionate towards them and maybe it just wasn’t the right time. Consider the fact that life is never just a series of YES’s but a journey from no… to maybe… to someday… to even yes.

Be patient and prepared. Be truthful and educated. Be available and helpful. Be trustworthy and caring of others needs. That is the responsibility of everyone who makes a request. It’s a great place to start.

Today I want to ask a question. Throw mud on the wall and see what sticks! I see this every day. We say we’re going to do something but our actions prove otherwise.

Today I want to ask a question. Throw mud on the wall and see what sticks!

I see this every day. We say we’re going to do something but our actions prove otherwise. We say we’re committed to x, y, z… but the actions needed to get any traction at all in those areas are never taken… excuses as to why we can’t, or didn’t have time, or forgot, or double booked, whatever it is are definitely plentiful. But the motivation to get it done, is lacking.

Why is that?

  • We say we’re going to start a business and use it to change our financial situation, but we don’t.

  • We say we’re going to work out and lose the weight the doctor says we need to, but we don’t.

  • We say we’re going to go to bed at a decent hour so that we can be rested and ready to accomplish certain tasks, but we don’t.

  • We say we’re going to save money and use it to pay off debt, but we don’t.

I’m sure you can think of countless more things we’ve said (or others have said) that would definitely happen but never had.

It’s too bad really… we are made for more! We can do anything we set our hearts and minds to. There really isn’t anyone or anything that limits us but our own self doubt or insecurity… so why do we succumb to it day in and day out? Why do we allow ourselves to continue being a statistic of lost dreams, lost endeavours and lost growth?

It’s interesting how, even though we see the proof in our own lives, that by continuing to do the same things and not changing, it bring us nothing different or new… we remain in the same place, with the same issues that we always want solved. Nothing changes.

What motivates you to change? Does the constant low grade sense of failure and loss keep us misguided in complacency? Does that familiarity make us somehow feel safe? Maybe it does somehow. It’s sneaky how we feel like change is wrong, because it’s uncertain. But in reality it’s the choice of not changing that is actually “killing you slowly “. It’s like that story about the frog in the frying pan. Turn up the heat quickly and it’ll jump right out! But turn up the heat really slowly and it won’t even realize it’s being cooked alive.

What motivates you to change? Does the constant low grade sense of failure and loss keep us misguided in complacency? Does that familiarity make us somehow feel safe?

I think that is us as humans. We have tricked ourselves into thinking that we don’t need to change because the unknown is scary. Scary means wrong! Therefore we don’t change.

The thought of being stuck in that cycle is what motivates me. I don’t want my life to be a continuo sequence of disappointment and wishing for more. If I need to adapt, change and learn new things to get closer to where my dreams are, I will.

Will you?

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